Thursday, February 29, 2024

Ms. Margaret

 This month of love we lost a very dear lady.  Ms. Margaret, mother of my wife's best friend Laura.  Lisa wrote this beautiful poem and I wanted to share it with you.  I hope you enjoy and help us remember this beautiful Christian lady.


One day an angel with a dream softly approached God’s throne

“I’d like to have something to love of my very own.”

 

“It’s not that I don’t love you, Lord – for you know that I do,

It’s just that I believe I could love little humans too.”

 

The Lord sighed deeply, then smiled as He said,

“I want to make sure you understand just what lies ahead.”

 

“You’ll have to become human with all their limitations and strife;

And you will also become a woman if your desire is to give life.

 

Great physical pain will accompany every child which you birth;

As you begin your journey into motherhood on earth.

 

Soon after, there is great joy and a love that you’ve never known;

But there’s so much more to raising little humans of your own.

 

There will be sleepless nights, endless days and sometimes heartache beyond measure;

As well as triumphs, love, hugs and kisses – making each little human your treasure.

 

Then one day you’ll send them out on a journey of their own,

Praying they remember the love & life lessons they learned from you at home.

 

So I will grant you this request,” God said, “because I know you will succeed,

For you will learn the cost of loving little humans is very great indeed.

 

When your time on earth is done, I’ll call you back to me,

And the love you gave will live on in your little humans’ memories.”

 

So when you stop to think of Momma, as you will often do,

You’ll know the love of God that came from an angel He sent to you.


Below is Ms Maragret signing our wedding reception book.




 

Tuesday, February 27, 2024

SMILE

 Do you ever notice how some people smile all the time.  Makes suspicious of them.  Some have 

a glow that lights up the room.  People will ask those that smile why they smile all the time.  When I am

 asked, I tell them that if I did not smile, I would probably cry.  I feel that most people would rather see

 someone smiling than crying.

Smiles vary. Some people use only their lips, while others smile with their whole face, especially their teeth. I have seen some smiles that were better before they showed teeth (or the lack thereof). A toothless smile is cute on a child, but for an adult it can be comical or embarrassing.

My dad and mom were toothless by the time they were in their thirties. They smoked and did not practice good oral hygiene, as we do today. I was a teenager before I owned a toothbrush. That was in the late 1960s. Daddy said we could use a sweet gum twig with salt and baking soda to brush our teeth. I lost one of my permanent teeth, a molar, when I was in the seventh grade. I had a mouth full of cavities. I was married before I finally had dental insurance to pay for fillings, root canals, and crowns.

I had the opportunity once to minister to a church member who needed teeth. In Pell City, Alabama, there is a One Day Denture clinic. Another church member had volunteered to take a man to the clinic, but then he could not. I got the duty, since, as the pastor, I was “not doing anything.” It was an all-day event.

After an hour's drive, we arrived at the clinic. We were there early. Slowly the office filled with toothless people. The doctor’s aides promised that everyone would see the doctor. Each person listened for the sound of his or her name. Their worry and trepidation kept them from smiling. Having no teeth did not help, either.

I felt bad about smiling. It seemed that the doctor’s aides and I were the only ones with teeth. I was embarrassed to show my teeth. It was an odd feeling, and I kept my hand over my mouth.

True to the claim, the doctor took every one of the patients and did an impression of his or her gums. I hid my teeth for five hours. It was dinner time (lunch for city folks). No one went to eat. I was hungry, but there was no way that I was going to eat in front of the toothless patients.

About one in the afternoon, the doctor’s aides gathered the patients. Once again, each person listened in anticipation for his or her name. Four people at a time, with anxiety covering their faces, entered the back of the clinic when the aides called their names.

What happened next is unforgettable. When the first person returned through the door, the waiting patients said, almost in unison, “Show us your teeth.” This person had undergone a transformation! Uncertainty and timidity had been traded for a beautiful smile. One by one, each person would stop, smile, and leave to a round of applause.

On the way back home, a police officer pulled me over for speeding. I was in a hurry to get home and get something to eat. He wanted to know why I was going fifteen miles over the speed limit, where was I going, and why I was in a hurry.

I told him that I was trying to get the man and his mother back home, because we had spent the whole day at the One Day Denture clinic. He looked puzzled. I could tell he was not buying my story. I said, “You know, the place where they do the one-day dentures.”

I turned to the man who had a new set of pearly whites and said, “Smile Jim, and show him your teeth.” Jim had the biggest grin of pearly whites.

The officer frowned and said, “Slow it down and go home.” We all said thanks—and smiled.

            “Thy teeth are as a flock of sheep which go up from the washing, whereof everyone beareth twins, and there is not one barren among them.” (Song of Solomon 6:6, KJV)

I bet you smiled, didn’t you?

What makes you smile?

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Do you have perfect teeth, or do you have many fillings and missing teeth? Did you lose your teeth because of poor oral hygiene and bad eating habits?

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What do you think, and how do you feel, when someone greets you with a smile?

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Prayer: Father, thank You for simple things, such as a smile, a toothbrush, and toothpaste. Thank You for calling people as dentists, oral surgeons, and orthodontists. Forgive me for not taking care of my teeth as a child. Thank You for all those who share a smile and who are with those whose hearts are heavy and who cannot smile. Help me to keep an infectious smile.


* One of the stories out of my Thirty-one Day Devotional: I Will Speak Using Stories.  

Thursday, February 15, 2024

A PINK NOTE FROM GOD

 As a new day began to dawn, I watched embers drift into the sky.  The embers were the remnants of a lifetime of collecting.  My home of thirty-six years was slowly disappearing into the coming sunrise of July 12, 2012.

Alone as the Lord’s Day was about to dawn, I began to recall the events of the last twenty-four hours.  My son Aaron and I had spent our Saturday in Linden, Alabama where I was serving as Director of Missions doing miscellaneous items known to all weekend warriors.  We ended the day grilling hamburgers on the grill.  We watched as the hickory wood burned into to coals and the tiny embers that scurried to enter the heavens.  The hamburgers were the best we had every cooked.  They were juicy and delicious.   The embers of the Lord’s Day were a sacrifice, not of Biblical requirements, of over sixty years of sacrifice to have, fill, and maintain our home.

We had moved into the house on December 13, 1977.  It was my birthday.  My brothers, father-in-law, and two brothers-in-law had moved everything in for us.  My daughter Angela was three months old, her big brother almost two.  It was a time of dedication and rejoicing.  Now it was a sober and bitter moment of reality that everything burned.

Aaron and I watched old movies and went to bed.  I wanted a goodnight’s rest knowing I was to preach three services for the Greensboro Baptist Church in the morning.  Sound asleep, a neighbor, Rick, knocked at the door and rung the doorbell.  News at two in the morning is rarely good.  Rick was an Alabama State Trooper and he told us that our home in Jemison, Alabama in Chilton County had burned completely.  It was totally furnished and was our getaway and retirement home while serving in the ministry.

We arrived at Jemison about 3:45 that morning and found the house gone leaving the main floor and basement smoking with tiny fires scattered around the main floor.  Angela, her husband, and our grandson were there crying with only memories of the home she started living at three months.

The West Chilton Fire Department, less than a mile way, tried to quench the fire but the house was too flammable with materials that would create a giant open grill much larger than where Aaron and I grilled burgers.  The only item redeemed was my 1950 Plymouth that had been a resident of the basement since 1978.

Thinking the fire out, most everyone left.  I was able to go in the basement.  There was a fire at the stairwell leading into the great room.  A small flame lapped over a couple of floor joists.  Heat warmed the predawn air and embers continued their flight to the heavens.  Suddenly the remaining darkness disappeared and what had not burned exploded in fames rising for a second time seventy feet into the morning sky.  Firefighters said when they got the call the house was already engulfed in flames reaching high driving darkness away into the heavens.  Everything remaining fell into the basement creating the towering inferno.

I sent everyone home.  Going to my workshop, I pulled out a chair and watched a lifetime float away.  Gone was an antique, hand carved device that we never could fine anyone to identify it.  Gone was my baby bed that was bed to Andy, Angela, and of course me.  It was second hand when momma bought it for me in 1952.  Even today, I remember items that were in the house, basement, and attic.

It was watching our lifetime collection disappear that I cone to the conclusion it was just stuff.  It was OUR STUFF.  When it is all said and done, after my immediate family, it was unimportant.  No lives were lost and a hundred years from that moment who cares?

As the sun began to rise, the thing that mattered was that 8:30 that morning I was to preach the early service at Greensboro.  I had contemplated what would I do.  There was no way to do it.  I called my good friend, and fellow Director of Missions Tom Stacey of the Selma Baptist Association.  He was an answer to prayer.  He told me he had it and he would handle and not to worry.  I knew he would do it and I quit thinking about.

I heard a voice calling BOBBY!  It was my aunt Katherine from across the road.  Her and my aunt Annie were my security system while I lived a way.

I returned the yell with yes mam!  She said come eat some breakfast.  It had been a long time the burgers.  She cried as she consoled me.  I reminded her that everything was going to be okay.

As I returned to the smothering pit, I noticed something pink in the ditch by my driveway.  It was a charred pink note card.  The card drifted more than three hundred feet from the burning house.  A fragile and flammable piece of paper place for me to find.    

It had a picture of a worm created using the fingertips of a child, Angela’s.  I turned it over and there written was Psalm 46:1. I remembered it was in the attic with keepsake stuff in our cedar chest.  Angela was not even old enough write it.  Thirty years before the fire God had someone send me a note.  Psalm 46:1 states, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.

I looked into heaven and thanked God for the note.  He had been with me all morning.

 

The pink note reminded me:

Life is lived by moments.

One moment I was a 16 yr/old, next I am old man.

One moment our children were babies, now they are 47, 46. and 36.

One moment I was a plant employee, next moment I am retired.

One moment I could not wait to graduate college on December 1987, now that’s 37 yrs ago.

 

Life is fragile.

We are one heartbeat from death.

We are one trip from fatal accident.

We are one phone call from tragic news.

We are one wrong step from being handicap.

We are one incident from emotional instability.

We are one sin from moral failure.

 

God is who He says He is. (Refuge, Strength, Help)

God is the God of the Universe.

God is the God of Salvation.

God is the God of Peace.

 

Why are we afraid?  You may need a pink note from God.

Someone made the pink card for Angel during Vacation Bible School.  They will never know how much spoke to me that morning of the fire.

 

  

Thursday, February 1, 2024

Worrying is a Waste of Imagination

 Time flies.  Over thirty-seven years ago, I had a hurting in my chest.  I didn’t think much of it thinking it was indigestion.  Then I started have some pressure on the left side of my neck.  I shrugged it off, but when I started having pain down my left arm, I was concerned.  I thought that I might be having a heart attack.

I did not want to die at the cement plant, so I made a trip to see the human resource manager, Joe Carey.  I really didn’t want to see him because he had a tendency to overreact.  I knew that if were a heart attack, he may have one himself, but company policy was to report all injuries regardless of how minor.  This was not accident related, but I feared it would be if I died at work.

Sure enough, Joe panicked.  He told me to go immediately to see the company doctor who just happened to be my family doctor.  After a barrage of tests, Dr. Mitchell said I was not having a heart attack.  I remember looking at him and said, “Doc, I’m okay and I know what I need to do.”  I returned to work, gave Joe a report, and returned to work. 

That evening, I went home and sat on the bed, took a long look in the mirror, and had a heart to heart, no pun intended here, conversation with me.  As I looked at the man in the mirror, I told him that he was under too much stress.  I told him that no one expected him to make straight A’s at the University of Montevallo.  It was difficult enough to work a forty-hour week, take twelve hours (full time student) of classes, and be a husband, dad, and pastor.  I reminded him that no one cared what kind of grades he made and that he was the one that applied all the pressure.

The man in the mirror reminded me that he was going to school for the Lord and wanted to be an example of God’s call on his life.  He said that it was the cement plant that forced him to miss all his classes and refused to accommodate his class schedules. The University agreed that he did not have to attend classes because he had a high-grade point average.  He only had to do the assignments and take tests.

The conversation ended when I agreed with myself that I was not going to worry about it.  The hurting stopped and I made all Bs that college term.  That was great.  My wife attended all her classes and all mine too with the exception of computer, which I was able to take night classes.  She tape-recorded my classes and took notes.

My grades improved when I stopped worrying.  Classes were more interesting, and I had a great time.  The straight Bs cost me Summa Cum Laude, Magna Cum Laude, or even Cum Laude.  You are right.  Who cares?  That was my point to myself.   I did graduate with high enough grades to graduate with honors and apply a Master’s Degree and eventually a Doctorate.  The biggest discovery from college, stop worrying.

I should have known better.  Dad taught us not to worry.  Though he was not a Christian, he reminded us constantly that God was in control.  It was disrespectful, but he would say, “The Old Man Upstairs is in control.  If the sun don’t come up in the morning, what are you gonna do about it?”  Another favorite of dad’s was, “In a hundred years, who cares?”  God taught us about the providence of God.  God is on His throne and when He walked on earth, He admonished His followers to give their burdens to Him.

God is well aware of the troubles that you and I face.   I believe our present troubles are for God’s glory, making us better for the future.  God will use our bad for good that others my see the power of God in our lives.

I read something the other day that never registered with me before.  I came at a critical juncture of my journey.  It was, “Worrying is a waste of imagination.”  Worry comes from the Old English word wyrgan, which means to strangle.  Author Mark Twain writes, “I have lived through some terrible things in my life, some which actually happened.”

I come from a long line of worriers on momma’s side of the family.  Mom worried about everything and daddy acted as though he did not have a care in the world.  I heard a preacher say a long time ago that “Worrying for a believer is a sin, the Bible says fret not.”  I do worry from time to time, but remind myself, sometimes looking the mirror, that God has it under control and he does not want me to worry.  Hey, God’s got it!

 

Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved (Psalm 55:22 KJV).

 

And which of you with taking thought can add to his stature one cubit?  If ye then be not able to do that thing which is least, why take ye thought for the rest? (Luke 12:25-26 KJV)

 

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God (Phil 4:6 KJV).

 

Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you (I Peter 5:7 KJV).